Framing something as "a numbers game" sets us up for failure. It alludes to how persistence breeds success but it makes us blind for other equally important aspects of it. We will be much better off if we start saying and thinking it's a "Learners' game" instead. Here's why.
Instead of pointing to things that we can actually work on, judgement and bulling lump our whole selves into an indiscriminate mass of failure and rejection, leaving us ostracized and helpless. Read on to understand more about guilt and shame and how they relate to our propensity to commit crime, to depression, and to self-improvement: https://thecorrespondent.com/73/can-guilt-and-shame-ever-be-positive/978340671-863dd837.
A brilliant article on TED sheds light on how the way we tell our life stories impacts who we are. Dan McAdams, a psychologist at the Northwestern University, explains what 'narrative choices' are and how they shape our present and our future.